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The dynamics of husband, wife, parent and child has new meaning as the world changes. Families were once like huge boulders atop leveled foundations. They were strong; too big to move or shake. If the foundation was weakened, and back then there were fewer weak foundations, the boulders rolled and tumbled and sometimes cracked. Instability threatened everything in its path. And if by chance it tumbled around and hit others, breaking apart and creating a mess, more boulders, families, became unstable as well.

So what we have now is a country, a world, where families have fallen apart. When the backbone of our existence fades away, so does the community, city, state, country and the world. When families fall apart, the children are the most affected. These are the future parents, teachers and leaders of the world? They're the same children being shuffled back and forth from one angry household to another. They're the same children who's grades and lifestyles falter because they feel unloved and even guilty for their parent's divorces. The pain caused by divorce may be palitable for adults but children are psychologically affected. Ideally, divorced parents should continue to parent with love but they tend to be incapable of such because of selfish desires to fix their own wounds. Many divorced parents are then too busy working and fueling their own dreams to be a part of their children's lives. Because of that, our streets are filled with harmful, angry, surpressive people who affect the world negatively.

Non-intact households have less income. The percentage of divorced households that move from decent earnings to below poverty levels is staggering. Women in particular carry the hardest burden of raising their young while managing to live above poverty. In many cases, women are raising children without the help of fathers. There is nothing worse than an angry mother witho no means of providing for her children. Angry mothers produce anti-social children. The anger stems from feeling the weight of parenting alone or the burden of providing financially when conditions require that she spend more time with the kids. Divorce has a bad affect on our society. When 1 out of every 2 marriages fail, that's 1 out of every 2 groups of siblings failing life. We are in crisis.

The solution is simple, but people are too involved in personal gain to put any effort towards healing the planet. It's not the ozone layer or the rain forest or any of the issues regarding maintaining the planet that I speak, although they need our attention too. It's the human condition that has to be changed immediately. Churches aren't doing enough. The government is not doing enough. What can anybody do?

We can't fix what's already broken but we can virtually start all over. If everyone understood how to parent, how to nurture, teach, and empower children, the future becomes bright. When a woman becomes pregnant, it should be mandatory that she and the father take parenting courses as part of their health coverage, and continue to take classes over a period of years. Life is complex and demanding. Most parents don't even know they're failing as parents. But with parenting skills, the support of family, neighbors, communities and churches, we can produce better humans and save the planet.

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